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Happiness looks different to introverts.  What does happiness look like to you?

The Three Guiding Principles Explained

Written by Joanne Jones

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Posted on May 06 2020

Hi!  My name is Joanne and I’m an introvert.  As an introvert, I need to think things through very thoroughly before expressing an opinion - give me all the facts first!  I also like change, especially when it changes something for the better.  So, when I found myself in a job where I was constantly told that I was too quiet (sound familiar?), where they wanted opinions and comments on everything from day one, but weren’t open to changing anything, I knew it wasn’t for me.  

After leaving that job, I wanted to make sure that wherever my life took me next was better aligned to bring me joy and happiness.  So, I started this website as a way to 1) connect to other introverts and 2) help each other find joy.  As a part of this journey, I’m creating an introvert’s guide to building lasting joy and happiness in an extroverted world.

This guide is based on three main principles: self-awareness, mindset and work-life balance.  In this blog post, I’ll go through a quick review of each principle. 

1)    Develop Self-Awareness

“Self-awareness is our capacity to stand apart from ourselves and examine our thinking, our motives, our history, our scripts, our actions, and our habits and tendencies.” – Stephen Covey

What is self-awareness?  Self-awareness is examining our own thoughts and beliefs.  It is understanding yourself – your strengths/weaknesses, likes/dislikes, your personality, your values and beliefs.

So, why is self-awareness important?  There are two main reasons.

First, through self-awareness you begin to understand why you do the things you do.

Second, it allows you to play to your strengths, values and beliefs. That way when an opportunity comes up, it is easier to see if it is a good fit.  The better the fit, the happier you will be. 

     

    2)    Cultivate the Right Mindset

    Do you operate from a fear based/scarcity mindset or an abundance/growth mindset?  Umm, what is that?  A person with a scarcity mindset operates out of fear that there is never enough.  The scarcity mindset only sees limits.

    However, a person with an abundance/growth mindset sees that there is enough for everyone.  This mindset only sees possibilities.  

    “What we say to ourselves in the privacy of our own minds, matters.  It drives our behaviour, which drives our destiny, which shapes our world.” – Marie Forleo

    The mindset that you have comes out in the way you speak, the way you talk and the way you act.  When presented with the same situation, a person with a scarcity mindset will act very differently than a person with an abundance/growth mindset.  Once you recognize which mindset you operate from, you can start to cultivate practices that will move and keep you in an abundance/growth mindset. 

    The right mindset will allow you to be in more control of your life and open up so many more opportunities.  This in turn, will set you on a path towards lasting joy and happiness.

     

    3)    Strive for Work-Life Balance

    Work-life balance is the act of splitting your time between your work and your personal life.

    The first step towards achieving a good work-life balance is to evaluate your current life.  Does it give you enough balance, so that you have time for both work and a personal life?  One where you are flourishing in both?

    If not, then it’s time to explore options that will give you a better balance.  That’s why the self-awareness from step one is so important.  The following quote by Melinda Gates is very inspiring. 

    “Seek out people and environments that empower you to be nothing but yourself.” – Melinda Gates

    The more you are aligned to being yourself, the easier it will be to flourish.  Then bring in the right mindset from step two, which will allow you to find the opportunities, people and environments that allow you to be you.  Finally, take time to do periodic check-ins with yourself and ensure you’re keeping a work-life balance that, well for lack of a better word, works for you!

     

    Stay tuned for future posts where I expand on these principles in more detail!  I’ll include insights and tips, combined with personal stories and science, that are practical and easy to implement.

     

    Until my next blog post, here's wishing you lots of joy and happiness.

    With all my love,